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Is A Closed Adoption The Right Choice For You And Your Baby?

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Choosing to place a child for adoption is a difficult decision to make. Once you have decided that adoption is the right choice for your baby, you'll need to decide whether you want to have contact with the child as he or she grows and what form that contact will take. While most birth moms choose to have, at a minimum, the contact information for the adoptive parents and a yearly photo of the child, others decide that a closed adoption is right for them. A closed adoption is when the birth mother and the adoptive parent or parents have no contact with each other before or after the adoption.

Closed Adoptions Provide Privacy

While today's adoptions rarely resemble those of the mid-20th century when young women were sent away to a strange town to give birth with little explanation, some women today still desire privacy. If you don't want to have to discuss the details of your pregnancy with anyone, including the adoptive parents, then a closed adoption allows you to remain anonymous. It also allows you to avoid questions from well-meaning or curious relatives and friends later. You can truthfully answer, "I don't know," when asked how the child is doing in the coming years.

Closed Adoptions Provide Closure

Some women find and unplanned and unwanted pregnancy to be an experience they'd like to avoid revisiting in the future. You might be sure that you are making the right decision, but would prefer to put it all behind you once you deliver the baby and relinquish your parental rights to the adoptive parents. In a closed adoption, you have the option to move on with your life without being reminded of your choice with letters, photos and visits.

Closed Adoptions Provide Safety for the Child

If your or the birth father's family is unstable or dangerous, having a closed adoption can prevent those with emotional, drug or other problems from contacting the child and his or her adoptive family. Be aware, however, that if this is the sole reason you are considering closed adoption, there are other ways to keep unstable family members from bothering the family. For example, you can still withhold the information from them or a restraining order can be placed, if necessary.

If you decide that a closed adoption is the right choice for you, you can elect to have your contact information become available to the child when he or she turns 18 or 21 years old. You can also allow your (and the birth father's) medical and family history to be made available in case there is a genetic problem or condition that shows up at birth or in later years. Your adoption agency or attorney will walk you through the process of deciding which type of adoption is right for you. For additional information about closed adoptions, visit http://www.achildsdream.org